Episode 78
078 - The Leader Shift Playbook: Overcoming Mount Stupid and Embracing Vulnerability with Philip B. Wilson
Join hosts Dennis Collins and Leah Bumphrey in this enlightening episode of "Connect and Convert," the go-to Sales Accelerator Podcast for small business owners looking to harness insider knowledge to accelerate their growth. This week, they had the honor of welcoming Philip B. Wilson, President and General Counsel of LRI Consulting Services and a respected authority in employee retention and leadership. In an engaging conversation, Phil shares profound insights from his forthcoming book, "The Leader Shift Playbook," set to release on April 1, 2025.
KEY POINTS
The Dunning-Kruger Effect and "Mount Stupid": Phil discusses the pitfalls of leadership where individuals mistakenly overestimate their understanding or effectiveness. His personal journey emphasized acknowledging one’s limitations and the need for continual growth in leadership.
Identifying Warning Signs for Leadership Mindset Shifts: Phil offers insight into recognizing crucial signs that indicate leadership effectiveness may be lacking and shares his methodologies for overcoming them, rooted in proactive communication and genuine connections.
The Hero Assumption: An essential discussion element revolves around the belief in your team's potential. Phil stresses that believing in others can significantly impact their performance, drawing parallels with psychological studies illustrating the effects of perceived capabilities on actual results.
The Importance of Vulnerability in Leadership: Phil shares his transformative experience of confronting his leadership shortcomings, highlighting the power of vulnerability and open dialogue in fostering trust and collaboration within teams.
Practical Tools for Effective Leadership: As a rich resource, Phil discusses the Leadership Toolkit accompanying his book, which provides actionable strategies and exercises geared towards improving leadership efficacy and enhancing team dynamics.
TIMESTAMPS
- 00:00 - Introduction and welcome
- 02:15 - Introducing Phil B. Wilson
- 07:30 - Understanding "Mount Stupid" and Dunning-Kruger Effect
- 15:00 - Recognizing the signs for leadership shifts
- 27:45 - Exploring the Hero Assumption
- 35:30 - Vulnerability and trust within teams
- 42:00 - Introducing the Leadership Toolkit
- 50:15 - Closing thoughts and challenges for listeners
LINKS
- Dennis Collins: https://wizardofads.org/partner/dennis-collins/
- Leah Bumphrey: https://wizardofads.org/partner/leah-bumphrey/
- Philip B. Wilson: https://www.linkedin.com/in/pbwilson/
- LRI Consulting Services: https://lrionline.com/
- Amazon for "The Leader-Shift Playbook: https://www.amazon.com/Leader-Shift-Playbook-Changes-Unleash-Potential/dp/1639081178
BIO & BACKGROUND
Philip B. Wilson boasts a robust career and nearly five decades of experience in labor and employee relationship consulting. As the President and General Counsel of LRI Consulting Services, he has played a pivotal role in guiding organizations toward establishing extraordinary workplaces. With a passion for employee engagement, Phil authored the "Approachability Playbook" and is set to enrich the leadership landscape with "The Leader Shift Playbook." His work reflects a deep commitment to fostering meaningful connections and effective leadership practices that inspire teams to thrive.
In this episode, expect to be inspired as Phil shares vibrant anecdotes from his journey, coupled with actionable strategies that can help any leader reassess their approach, effectively connect with their team, and elevate their organizational culture. Don’t miss this masterclass in leadership transformation!
Transcript
Welcome to another episode of Connect & Convert, the Sales Accelerator podcast, where
Dennis Collins:small business owners tune in every week to hear insider secrets about how to grow their business.
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Dennis Collins:Leah.
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Dennis Collins:So today, you know, we always try to bring you the latest, the greatest, the most interest, interesting topics.
Dennis Collins:We have a special sneak peek.
Dennis Collins:And some real insider information from a gentleman who is an employee retention and leadership expert with
Dennis Collins:decades of experience helping businesses create extraordinary workplaces.
Dennis Collins:Today he's gonna reveal some advanced insider information from his soon to be released book.
Dennis Collins:Our guest today on Connect & Convert is Philip B.
Dennis Collins:Wilson.
Dennis Collins:President General Counsel of LRI Consulting services, the nation's leading full service labor and
Dennis Collins:employee relationship building consulting firm for over 47 years.
Dennis Collins:Phil is an author, he's a frequent speaker on employee relations topics.
Dennis Collins:He is an employee retention and leadership expert.
Dennis Collins:He's written a book called The Approachability Playbook.
Dennis Collins:I remember getting that.
Dennis Collins:A few years ago, and I devoured it and I mark it up and I put tabs in it because there is more
Dennis Collins:in that little approachability playbook than you can imagine.
Dennis Collins:And now his new book, which we'll be talking about today, it'll be released in April of this year, April 1st.
Dennis Collins:As a matter of fact, that's no joke.
Leah Bumphrey:You gotta pay extra to have a release date like that, that.
Dennis Collins:I think you do, but here's the title, the Leader Shift Playbook.
Dennis Collins:Let me say that clearly.
Dennis Collins:The leader Shift, S-H-A-I-F-T, the Leader Shift Playbook, coming out April 1st, 2025.
Dennis Collins:Phil, thank you for taking the time today.
Dennis Collins:It's so good to have you with us.
Dennis Collins:I love talking about.
Dennis Collins:Employee relations and leadership topics with you.
Dennis Collins:It is also one of our favorite topics for our viewers and listeners.
Dennis Collins:So it's one of those things we could talk all day, but we won't, we will probably leave the audience
Dennis Collins:wanting more and when the book comes out, they can know all.
Dennis Collins:So let, let, uh, welcome again.
Dennis Collins:We're glad to have you.
Dennis Collins:Thanks.
Dennis Collins:Thanks for having me, Dennis And Leah.
Dennis Collins:Uh, okay.
Dennis Collins:I read the excerpt on your website.
Dennis Collins:And you hooked me in with your commentary on your trip to Mount Stupid.
Dennis Collins:Now, I actually thought, Phil, that I had exclusive rights to the top of Mount Stupid.
Dennis Collins:I thought I had it, and all of a sudden you're claiming it.
Dennis Collins:I saw your flag up there, Dennis, that I, uh, I planted my own.
Dennis Collins:Yeah, I was there a bit before you, uh, a, a few years before you.
Dennis Collins:I think I did make that trip.
Dennis Collins:It's comforting to know there are others.
Dennis Collins:Even the experts.
Dennis Collins:Uh, at any rate, why don't you describe for our audience, because I think it's very instructive, because this
Dennis Collins:is, this starts with your story and your story, which leads to discoveries
Dennis Collins:that you made and things that you did to help fix some of the issues.
Dennis Collins:So describe what you mean by mount stupid and how it inspired this book.
Phil Wilson:If your listeners have ever heard of the, the Dunning Kruger effect, the, the basic idea
Phil Wilson:of it is that, um, on a complicated subject, for example, leadership, which is about as complicated as
Phil Wilson:they get, um, you know, you learn some and then you, you can easily.
Phil Wilson:Walk yourself into like, oh, I'm an expert at this.
Phil Wilson:Like, I, you know, you think you know a whole lot more than, you know, and, uh, that's mount stupid because, uh,
Phil Wilson:you're, you aren't really appreciating sort of how deep the rabbit hole
Phil Wilson:goes when you, you know, I've talked yourself into, I'm, you know, I'm.
Phil Wilson:At this and the story I tell it's my own personal leadership journey, but I was, you know, going around
Phil Wilson:the country, uh, teaching people about leadership, talking, uh, about
Phil Wilson:the book that you just mentioned, the approachability playbook.
Phil Wilson:Uh, when I came to the.
Phil Wilson:Stark realization that I was a crappy leader of my own team.
Phil Wilson:Oh boy.
Phil Wilson:And uh, the book itself really sort of describes my, you know, realization and then some of the
Phil Wilson:work that I did personally, and then along with the relationships on my own team to help transform our.
Phil Wilson:Company.
Phil Wilson:Um, and then I, I help the readers understand, you know, they can sort of take these same steps,
Phil Wilson:these shifts, uh, in your mindset that, uh, that I made and hopefully will help them on their journey.
Dennis Collins:Wow.
Dennis Collins:Yeah, i, I was, I was, uh, uh, uh, I guess not shocked.
Dennis Collins:Have knowing, having known you a little bit, but not shocked at your, your, you know, your vulnerability of laying
Dennis Collins:it all out there and saying, Hey, here's a guy who teaches this stuff.
Dennis Collins:That his own house was not in order.
Leah Bumphrey:And you know, it's interesting because laying it out there and like once you make the determination
Leah Bumphrey:then as someone who is trying to help people, that's the obvious next step to write a book, to share the, the journey.
Leah Bumphrey:But how difficult was it for you to come to terms with that?
Leah Bumphrey:Like to really recognize it?
Leah Bumphrey:Was it people poking you?
Leah Bumphrey:Was it like, did you have those moments of, oh, for heaven's sakes, you just don't get me?
Leah Bumphrey:Like how, how was that part of it?
Phil Wilson:Lots of, lots of pokes along the way.
Phil Wilson:Um, the biggest from my editor, so this book, uh, was actually written about three times.
Phil Wilson:So I, I, and, and so Janet Goldstein is her name, but Janet, she, uh, helped me with the Approachability Playbook.
Phil Wilson:She's a terrific editor.
Phil Wilson:She, um, I then made the, the, the, the huge mistake.
Phil Wilson:Speaking of Mount Stupid, the huge mistake of writing another book and then just sort of sending
Phil Wilson:it to her and going like, Hey Janet, like, what do you think?
Phil Wilson:Um, and her reply was, I think you should re rewrite this.
Phil Wilson:Oh, oh boy.
Phil Wilson:Which I did.
Phil Wilson:Uh, and then I sent it to her again and she was like, Hey, Phil, like this is, this is great stuff in here.
Phil Wilson:Like there's really good pointers and practical, but like, I don't really.
Phil Wilson:I feel like you're in here.
Phil Wilson:You know, like I, she knows enough about my story and knows, you know, enough about my own journey.
Phil Wilson:She's like, I don't really see you here.
Phil Wilson:So I, I actually took a, a, a week sabbatical with the book for the,
Phil Wilson:for the third rewrite, um, which was where I actually kind of.
Phil Wilson:Reflected on this journey that I had been on over the last few years and started to, to, to think about, okay,
Phil Wilson:like these leadership principles that I, I'm talking about, where did they transform my own leadership?
Phil Wilson:And so like the story of being on the top of Mount Stupid I, that, that, which happened years before.
Phil Wilson:Um, but I, that was not in the book.
Phil Wilson:Uh, there, there's a, a number of stories with my own team that were not in the book before the third rewrite.
Phil Wilson:Um, and so a lot of the personal, uh, details of my story, you know, made it in there in the third
Phil Wilson:rewrite, and she, she finally let me, uh, release that to the world, uh, after, after the third rewrite.
Dennis Collins:Wow, that's quite, quite an evolution.
Dennis Collins:What, what is it?
Dennis Collins:You know, our audience, as you know, is probably is a lot of small business owners, uh, people
Dennis Collins:who are just, you know, trying to get through the week sometimes.
Dennis Collins:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:And they, you know, they think things are going pretty well.
Dennis Collins:They're meeting payroll, they're making a little bit of money.
Dennis Collins:Things look pretty good, and all of sudden they're not.
Dennis Collins:So what, what warning signs based on your.
Dennis Collins:Experience your personal experience, not only in your own business, but
Dennis Collins:in all the thousands of companies you've consulted with over the years.
Dennis Collins:What are the warning signs that you may have to make a leadership mindset shift?
Phil Wilson:Well, one of the things in our, in our workshops,
Phil Wilson:we do a, an exercise on what we call the approachability window.
Phil Wilson:But the, the, the basic idea of that exercise is you've gotta give somebody.
Phil Wilson:Feedback about themselves and we, we sort of manufacture the situation, but, but it's real life.
Phil Wilson:So like you're in a room and you have, uh, had a quick conversation with somebody where you're kind
Phil Wilson:of telling 'em a little bit about yourself and they're telling you a little bit about them, and then
Phil Wilson:you're put into a position where you have to give them some feedback.
Phil Wilson:That they don't know you're about to give them.
Phil Wilson:Right?
Phil Wilson:Uh, and, and some of that is about, here's some things I think
Phil Wilson:you're good at and here's some things I think you can improve.
Phil Wilson:And, but when we do the, the debrief of that exercise, Dennis.
Phil Wilson:And Leah, what, what we tell people is like that feeling that you had where you're like, your stomach sunk a little
Phil Wilson:bit and you're like, how am I gonna give this person who I might barely know?
Phil Wilson:You know, some, some potentially tough feedback.
Phil Wilson:It's like if you don't feel like that very often, you're not really doing it right.
Phil Wilson:Like, one way.
Phil Wilson:So one way to tell Dennis, you know.
Phil Wilson:That maybe you're not doing it right, as if like all your conversations are comfortable to you.
Phil Wilson:Yeah, you are.
Phil Wilson:Uh, 'cause you're probably coasting a little bit.
Phil Wilson:You know, the, the tougher conversations, the accountability
Phil Wilson:conversations, those are, um, that's what leadership feels like.
Phil Wilson:And so if you're not feeling that way on a pretty regular basis, then you're not really doing it right.
Dennis Collins:That's an inter I, I'd never thought of that.
Dennis Collins:But you know, if it's too easy, it's too easy.
Dennis Collins:Something is not right here.
Leah Bumphrey:Yeah.
Leah Bumphrey:So what kind of reactions do you get from people?
Leah Bumphrey:Is it okay?
Leah Bumphrey:So you, you, when you're doing this exercise, I find this fascinating.
Leah Bumphrey:Mm-hmm.
Leah Bumphrey:So if it's Dennis and I, and I am going to be giving him feedback, then is it gonna be reciprocated?
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:With the same person?
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:You both do it.
Phil Wilson:And you know, because it's in a workshop, it's, it's relatively simple.
Phil Wilson:So you're basically commenting on.
Phil Wilson:Uh, behaviors, so like approachability behaviors that you think that based on your interactions during that day
Phil Wilson:that you think that they could improve on, that you think they could work on and you each give each other feedback.
Phil Wilson:And we even sort of stack the deck, so to speak.
Phil Wilson:You actually use cards, but you give them cards that they've already kind of been through and cherry picked.
Phil Wilson:Sort of the easy stuff out of, and so you, you, you make it where they have
Phil Wilson:to, they're gonna pick something that's gonna be a little bit more challenging.
Phil Wilson:Um, and Leo, what happens in, in the room as you might expect, you know, you can just, like, first of
Phil Wilson:all, you know, everybody's kind of like, da da, da, you know, do you know in the fir the first round where
Phil Wilson:you're, you're revealing things that you already know about yourself.
Phil Wilson:It's like, no big deal.
Phil Wilson:And then all of a sudden when you're like, oh.
Phil Wilson:I have to like have like a serious conversation with someone who gets quieter.
Phil Wilson:Everyone starts trying to figure out like, how am I gonna say this?
Phil Wilson:Um, and then it's interesting, but there's a lot of different strategies.
Phil Wilson:And, and many of these things come natural, but like we, we don't wanna give people bad news.
Phil Wilson:So, so we, we want to make it a little bit easier for them.
Phil Wilson:Um, so you'll see things like, I will, uh, they've already by the way, just had a conversation with this person
Phil Wilson:where this person has mentioned a couple things they think they can work on.
Phil Wilson:So it's real common that you will sort of reflect back on the conversation
Phil Wilson:you just had and sort of bring that forward, which is a great, uh.
Phil Wilson:Tool for leaders to be able to go like, here's some things that like you, you do great.
Phil Wilson:Here's some things that you already know, you know, are, are challenges.
Phil Wilson:So here's something that I've noticed and here's something that I think we should work on.
Phil Wilson:But, but in that.
Phil Wilson:Exercise you see little versions of, of that.
Phil Wilson:Um, there's a, there, there's, it starts off as nervous laughter, but
Phil Wilson:you can, you can quickly see people will laugh to get comfortable.
Phil Wilson:Um, and when they're giving the feedback, um, they will deflect a
Phil Wilson:little bit and be like, look, this is just kind of my impression.
Phil Wilson:I don't know each other, we don't know each other, all that great.
Phil Wilson:We've just kind of been together in this exercise.
Phil Wilson:But, you know, this is, you know, for whatever it's worth, this is my take.
Phil Wilson:Which, which makes it, um.
Phil Wilson:A good, a good comfortable way to give feedback without, you know, necessarily hurting the other person.
Phil Wilson:So, so there's all these strategies that people employ that are really great, you know, things to take outta
Phil Wilson:the room because the next time you have to have a difficult conversation
Phil Wilson:with someone on your team, you know, you can use those same tactics.
Dennis Collins:Yeah, I'd be interested, Phil, in, in your
Dennis Collins:experience, um, and how it compares to some of the experiences I've had.
Dennis Collins:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:How many, how many managers, leaders, whatever we call 'em these days, really truly know how to
Dennis Collins:perform a difficult conversation successfully in your experience?
Dennis Collins:Without the training?
Dennis Collins:Without the training.
Phil Wilson:It's.
Phil Wilson:I look, some people are naturally better at it than others.
Phil Wilson:So like, let's just start there.
Phil Wilson:Not everybody's terrible at it, right?
Phil Wilson:Um, we tend to avoid those conversations, so like a big.
Phil Wilson:Kind of mistake that people make or, or problem people have is just avoiding the conversation altogether
Phil Wilson:until it's kind of like now it's not a molehill anymore, it's a mountain.
Phil Wilson:Um, but, uh, it is not natural for a lot of people.
Phil Wilson:And, and because of that, you know, you, you need to come up with sort of some, some tactics to, um, yeah, to get them.
Phil Wilson:Comfortable.
Phil Wilson:And, you know, there's different, different tools that we teach.
Phil Wilson:We, we, uh, one of, one of like my, sort of like magic tricks is this confirmed statement.
Phil Wilson:Um, so the confirmed statement is if you are talking to somebody and it's like an emotional issue or you're,
Phil Wilson:you know, it's an uncomfortable issue for them, you know, you talk
Phil Wilson:to them for a little bit and you listen and, and like, you know, you.
Phil Wilson:Look, every leadership class you've ever been to, it's like, well act, do active listening, um, you know, ask question.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:Like, there's all these sort of like tactics.
Phil Wilson:Most people don't do it in the moment because it's.
Phil Wilson:They're a little bit kind of on edge.
Phil Wilson:They're not exactly sure what to say.
Phil Wilson:They're nervous.
Phil Wilson:So typically what happens is we just like jump into problem solving
Phil Wilson:mode, which a lot of times is the worst thing that you can do.
Phil Wilson:And so what, what we do is just this little kind of mind trick of we give your brain like a
Phil Wilson:different problem to solve so that the, the confirmed statement is, you sound blank because of blank.
Phil Wilson:Do I have that right?
Phil Wilson:And so, so we make it a rule.
Phil Wilson:You're not allowed to kind of go any further in the conversation until
Phil Wilson:you have filled in those blanks and the first blanks on emotion.
Phil Wilson:You know, you sound angry, you sound frustrated, you sound overwhelmed because of, and then you followed up
Phil Wilson:with whatever they just told you a real quick, maybe one sentence summary of the story that they just told.
Phil Wilson:And when you, when you do that, it now for you're going to listen better.
Phil Wilson:'cause your brain goes from like.
Phil Wilson:Listening for when can I jump in and drop my knowledge bomb on
Phil Wilson:this person to like, you actually are listening for emotions.
Phil Wilson:So like you're in this whole different frame of mind.
Phil Wilson:So, so you are listening more carefully.
Phil Wilson:You're proving that you listened because you're naming this emotion
Phil Wilson:and you're naming and explaining what they just said to you.
Phil Wilson:And look, here's the.
Phil Wilson:Other magic part of this, you guys are wizards.
Phil Wilson:The, the other like, magic part of this is, uh, you can get, you could be totally wrong and you're still fine.
Phil Wilson:'cause they're gonna tell you what the answer is.
Phil Wilson:Right?
Phil Wilson:Exactly.
Phil Wilson:You can, you can name the wrong emotion.
Phil Wilson:I mean, unless you're just like, completely, like in outer
Phil Wilson:space, they will, um, they'll tell you what the answer is.
Phil Wilson:What, what, what they really care about is like, are you listening?
Phil Wilson:And at the point that you've proven like, I listened, I cared enough to listen.
Phil Wilson:For many situations, the problems solved.
Phil Wilson:They just needed to be heard.
Phil Wilson:Um, but in other situations, like at that point, they are ready to kind of collaborate on a solution.
Phil Wilson:So that's, that's an example.
Phil Wilson:You know, our, the, the book that the, the Leadership playbook, like a, a big part of uh, kind of my commitment
Phil Wilson:in that book and the last book as well, is just as many of these kind of practical tools that a leader can
Phil Wilson:use to kind of just up their, their game around, you know, your, your.
Phil Wilson:Your podcast, it's Connect & Convert.
Phil Wilson:Connect is like leadership.
Phil Wilson:The sum up of that, the model that we teach is literally called the connection model.
Phil Wilson:Like if you connect, all the good things happen, and if you don't connect, it really doesn't matter what else you do.
Phil Wilson:Like you're like, you're not going anywhere.
Phil Wilson:You gotta connect first.
Leah Bumphrey:This sounds like a conversation that's more of a hug than a, let's just rip that bandage off.
Phil Wilson:Mm-hmm.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:I mean, what's the point of.
Phil Wilson:Ripping off the bandaid, right?
Phil Wilson:If you're not gonna actually connect and try to like, uh, work together on like, where do we go from here?
Phil Wilson:Um, focusing backwards on the history and like whose fault it is.
Phil Wilson:And like, there there's not, there's nothing to be gained.
Phil Wilson:Right there.
Phil Wilson:The key question is like, what can we learn from what has happened and like, where are we going?
Phil Wilson:What's next?
Dennis Collins:What's next?
Dennis Collins:You know, the, uh, the thing that hits me is you also have a Leader shift toolkit.
Dennis Collins:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:That's available and.
Dennis Collins:I have, it's, um, I, I don't know exactly where I got the copy.
Dennis Collins:I don't wanna say anything if it's not available out there to the public.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:It, it comes with the excerpt of the book, so if you
Dennis Collins:Oh, okay.
Dennis Collins:So that's where I got it then.
Dennis Collins:Yeah, I got it with the excerpts of the book.
Phil Wilson:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:So I'm not, uh, revealing anything that's top secret, but, um, I would highly
Dennis Collins:recommend to anyone who's listening here who we piqued your interest
Dennis Collins:to get that download and look at Phil's Leader Shift toolkit.
Dennis Collins:You talk about practical.
Phil Wilson:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:Everyday applications.
Dennis Collins:You know, one of the biggest problems I've had in my world of consulting and running radio stations before
Dennis Collins:that and all the other stuff I've done, we all kind of knew what to do, but we didn't do it.
Dennis Collins:Okay.
Dennis Collins:I never could get the action.
Dennis Collins:Based on the amount of knowledge that we had accumulated, I think you helped solve that.
Dennis Collins:I know you did an approachability playbook to some extent as well,
Dennis Collins:loaded with practical exercises, but the toolkit's over the top.
Dennis Collins:Talk a minute about the toolkit and how you devise that, et cetera.
Phil Wilson:The toolkit is based on the, uh, the work that we've done with leaders over the last, you know,
Phil Wilson:decade and a half, you know, is kind of when we started the, the leadership training part of our, of our work.
Phil Wilson:And, um, so, so it's, it's like you said, it's a number of practical tools that implement some of these concepts.
Phil Wilson:'cause you're right, like we know what to do a lot of times, but it's more the kind of like, well, what.
Phil Wilson:That's why, you know, my last two books are called Playbooks.
Phil Wilson:Like, it's literally, I give you the plays to run so that you don't have to think about it.
Phil Wilson:It's, it's, it's, and some of the tools are to sort of prepare you for the conversation that you're about to have.
Phil Wilson:So you feel comfortable going into the conversation that you kind of know what you're gonna do.
Phil Wilson:Some of the tools are things that you actually fill out during the conversation.
Phil Wilson:Um, but they're all oriented to being very simple.
Phil Wilson:Um.
Phil Wilson:Each one kind of has one point that it's trying to get across.
Phil Wilson:Um, and each one sort of relates to some of the fundamentals that we've identified over the years as like
Phil Wilson:the critical building blocks for being an approachable leader, right?
Phil Wilson:And so that's what's in the toolkit.
Phil Wilson:It comes for free with the uh, um, with the excerpt of the book.
Phil Wilson:If you go to your leader shift.
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Leah Bumphrey:I particularly love that you use the analogy of sports because playbook is designed so
Leah Bumphrey:that okay, before you're in the situation, you know a direction that you're gonna have to go.
Leah Bumphrey:And, and when you look at professional, uh, athletes, when
Leah Bumphrey:you look at, you know, your kids in high school, they have a plan.
Leah Bumphrey:And that's basically what a playbook is.
Leah Bumphrey:It's.
Leah Bumphrey:Something that you can look at enough times, know what it is that you wanna do and why.
Leah Bumphrey:And then if it goes left well still you're in the middle of something.
Leah Bumphrey:'cause real life doesn't take a time out for.
Leah Bumphrey:Run in the meeting, you're in the meeting, you're being
Leah Bumphrey:approached by something, something's being thrown at you.
Leah Bumphrey:So what do you do?
Leah Bumphrey:I, I, I really appreciate that, that, that term, I think words are everything.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:Well, my sport was debate, but, uh, but I do mine too.
CROSSTALK:Me too.
CROSSTALK:We're all look at that.
CROSSTALK:Alright, let's love a debate.
Phil Wilson:I do like the, uh, I do like the idea of a playbook.
Phil Wilson:And, and like you say, Leah, you're, um, you, you know.
Phil Wilson:Just 'cause you have a playbook doesn't mean like things aren't gonna go crazy, right?
Phil Wilson:And so you may have to like, call an audible, you may pivot, you may, you know, but having that basic play kind of
Phil Wilson:in advance when you're getting prepared for whatever conversation or whatever,
Phil Wilson:you know, whatever you're doing, um, that gives you a solid foundation.
Phil Wilson:And if you are have already kind of thought through sort of it, it also is gonna trigger like, well.
Phil Wilson:I could see this person maybe saying this when I'm in this, you know, you, you, you start to
Phil Wilson:anticipate, you know, what are some of the things that could change up?
Phil Wilson:Um, so having the play just increases your comfort level and like, most importantly, going back to the beginning
Phil Wilson:where we talked about, you know, human nature is you're gonna avoid.
Phil Wilson:Something that is in any way, like uncomfortable, that's the easy button.
Phil Wilson:So having the playbook in some ways, like gets you at least over that hump.
Phil Wilson:Like I, I'm confident enough now that I can do this, that I'm gonna go ahead and jump into the game now
Phil Wilson:and I'm gonna, I'm gonna run the play and, you know, we'll see how it goes.
Phil Wilson:But like, that's, that's the other part that's really important about
Phil Wilson:a playbook is just give you, uh, the confidence to get, get rolling.
Dennis Collins:Right.
Dennis Collins:That's a great point.
Dennis Collins:You have referred the four mine.
Dennis Collins:Are usually required for someone to elevate their leadership.
Dennis Collins:Uh, I'm sure the book goes into great detail on those four mine shifts.
Dennis Collins:I'm sure that's the whole, the core of the book, but just,
Dennis Collins:uh, tell our audience what are those four mine shifts?
Dennis Collins:And let me put you on the spot.
Dennis Collins:If you had to choose just one of those mine shifts that would
Dennis Collins:make the most impact on your leadership, which one would that be?
Phil Wilson:Uh, I'll, well, I'll answer those in order.
Phil Wilson:So the shifts are, the first one is your belief in your impact, and here I talk about things like the, you know, the no
Phil Wilson:SIBO effect, which most people know, the placebo effect, which is, it's like, I believe a sugar pill's gonna cure me.
Phil Wilson:A lot of times it does.
Phil Wilson:The no SIBO effect is, is the flip side of that.
Phil Wilson:Like if I, if I tell you about the side effects that you might experience when you take a sugar pill,
Phil Wilson:people actually experience the side effects and so you having an impact.
Phil Wilson:Whether you believe you are or you're not, like you can be a placebo
Phil Wilson:effect or a no SIBO effect, but like one of those two is happening.
Phil Wilson:So that's like the first shift.
Phil Wilson:The second shift is your belief in yourself.
Phil Wilson:So once you recognize that you're having an impact, then like what are you doing to make sure that
Phil Wilson:that, you know, you believe that you have the tools and the capacity to be that placebo effect leader.
Phil Wilson:So that's a second shift, the third shift.
Phil Wilson:And Dennis, to answer your second question.
Phil Wilson:The one that I, if I could only pick one, it's your belief in others.
Phil Wilson:In this chapter, I talk about the hero assumption.
Phil Wilson:Um, this book was originally called The Hero Assumption.
Phil Wilson:My editor also talked me outta that.
Phil Wilson:Uh, but um, the hero assumption is about believing.
Phil Wilson:Others and you.
Phil Wilson:It, the, the, the, like, the lessons in here are so important.
Phil Wilson:It's, I, to me, one of the most important things for my own personal leadership journey, and I think
Phil Wilson:it's really, really important for anyone who's in leadership.
Phil Wilson:You know, whether you believe, you know, like Henry Ford is kind of credited with this, and I don't
Phil Wilson:know for sure who said it, but you know, whether you believe you're gonna succeed or fail, you're right.
Phil Wilson:The same thing is true about your team if you think that someone is gonna perform well.
Phil Wilson:Um, the, the, the research is unbelievable on this, but like they, they will rise to that occasion.
Phil Wilson:And if you believe someone is gonna fail.
Phil Wilson:Guess what?
Phil Wilson:Your behavior and the way that you talk to them and the way that you just
Phil Wilson:carry yourself around them is going to lead to that behavior as well.
Dennis Collins:And so, so it's not just words, right?
Dennis Collins:It, it's actions or lack of actions, et cetera.
Dennis Collins:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:It's like
Dennis Collins:what you, this applies
Leah Bumphrey:we're, we're talking about business, but this applies to kids in school too.
Leah Bumphrey:I remember hearing this very same thing.
Leah Bumphrey:If you tell teachers, yeah, this group of this, these guys are, their IQ is off the rails.
Leah Bumphrey:Or you tell them, uh, there's a lot of issues here.
Leah Bumphrey:Yeah.
Leah Bumphrey:That is going to inform what happens with that class and how that,
Phil Wilson:that, so that study, that study is in this chapter of the book.
Phil Wilson:Uh, but yes, if you, if you tell people, if you tell teachers that their students will bloom, they bloom.
Phil Wilson:And if you tell them that, uh, they're average, they stay average.
Phil Wilson:And if you tell them, God forbid, that they're dumb, um, you're, and, and, and
Phil Wilson:the studies are unbelievable because what happens is the teacher's behavior.
Phil Wilson:And like the crazy thing about that, those studies, Leah, they told the teachers just certain kids in the room
Phil Wilson:and they, they were set up where these were all kids of average IQ average.
Phil Wilson:You know, they like, they, the, the, the experiments were set up in a way that.
Phil Wilson:There's a co there's a control in the room.
Phil Wilson:Everyone's scores were similar.
Phil Wilson:And then they said, this one, this one, this one, and this one.
Phil Wilson:These are academic bloomers.
Phil Wilson:They're gonna, they're gonna bloom this year.
Phil Wilson:Um, and then everyone else just is average.
Phil Wilson:Well, the teacher's behavior just with those students was different.
Phil Wilson:Uh, and, and that behavior actually led to the results going up.
Phil Wilson:And here's the thing about those studies.
Phil Wilson:IQ is stable.
Phil Wilson:Especially in the ages that they were doing these studies in, but the IQ still went up, which is unusual basically
Phil Wilson:because the leader, which is the teacher, the leader, behaved differently
Phil Wilson:around those folks because of the belief that they had about those individuals.
Phil Wilson:Wow.
Phil Wilson:And I tell some other stories about similar studies, but Leah, to your point, this is not a work behavior.
Phil Wilson:This is a life.
Phil Wilson:Yes.
Phil Wilson:If you, your kids are gonna fail, you know, you're, you're, you're about to have some kids that fail.
Phil Wilson:And if you believe your own kids are gonna succeed, um, they will.
Phil Wilson:A lot of times, even, even when you're kind of like, I don't
Phil Wilson:know how this is gonna work, they will rise to the occasion.
Phil Wilson:Um, saying, you know, you're, the way you talk and think about your spouse is the same thing.
Phil Wilson:Your brothers, your sisters, folks in your community, like these.
Phil Wilson:These lessons are not just work related.
Phil Wilson:There's a lot of stuff in the book about different, um, sort of life scenarios where these apply as well.
Phil Wilson:Uh, but it's, so that's Dennis, why this is my favorite, most important shift.
Phil Wilson:Wow.
Phil Wilson:For sure.
Phil Wilson:The final one.
Phil Wilson:The final shift.
Phil Wilson:The fourth one is your, your, uh, belief in the power of relationships.
Phil Wilson:Uh, and so the hero assumption, uh, all of these interrelate with each other, but the power of relationships
Phil Wilson:is basically this, this point of, you know, your, your superpower as a leader is your connections.
Phil Wilson:You know, you need to believe in the power of relationships and how important it's to connect and, um.
Phil Wilson:You know, that can be more challenging with some people than others.
Phil Wilson:And so, so your, your job though is to, is to strengthen those connections.
Phil Wilson:So those are the four shifts that I talk about in the book.
Phil Wilson:I talk about how I made those shifts personally with folks on my team, uh, and uh, how that impacted
Phil Wilson:our relationship, how it impacted the way that they did their work.
Phil Wilson:Not just at work, but going back, Leah, you know, I tell a story about Laura, who's one of the folks on our
Phil Wilson:team who at the same time that we were kind of asking her to, to, to like step up and, and do work that
Phil Wilson:was, she was uncomfortable with, but we were telling her, making the
Phil Wilson:hero assumption, look, we believe you got what it takes to do this.
Phil Wilson:We're gonna help you, but like.
Phil Wilson:We think you've got this.
Phil Wilson:And, and she did.
Phil Wilson:But at the same time, you know, she was, uh, basically just like doing
Phil Wilson:clerical work for an organization that she volunteered with.
Phil Wilson:Um, over the course of the last few years, she's risen all the
Phil Wilson:way to the president of that organization basically because she, I.
Phil Wilson:Started to believe in herself, um, in a way that she hadn't before.
Phil Wilson:Um, so there's a lot of stories about sort of how these lessons have applied, you know, in my own company and, and
Phil Wilson:your listeners are, I think probably mostly sort of entrepreneurial, smaller, you know, businesses.
Phil Wilson:You probably have some larger ones too, but, but you know, if you are a small business owner and an entrepreneur,
Phil Wilson:um, you know, the story that I tell is of, you know, I've got 13 employees.
Phil Wilson:I, I, I talk about the transformation of my own business and my own company, um, using this playbook.
Leah Bumphrey:It's so energizing because too many times we think things are happening to us.
Phil Wilson:Mm-hmm.
Leah Bumphrey:Good or bad.
Leah Bumphrey:Oh, look what's happening.
Leah Bumphrey:Look what this possibility.
Leah Bumphrey:And it's, it's, we're this conduit.
Leah Bumphrey:But no, our energy can actually, change the path of our business, of our family, of our health.
Leah Bumphrey:Mm-hmm.
Leah Bumphrey:All of these things.
Leah Bumphrey:And you, you tell these stories, so, so, uh, from such a personal standpoint, you
Leah Bumphrey:can't help but feel that, okay, there's, there's options here and I can do it.
Dennis Collins:I, you know, I've always had, uh, folks tell me once again, it's what you believe, right?
Dennis Collins:But, uh.
Dennis Collins:The mind shift change is the hardest change you'll ever have to make in
Dennis Collins:your life, whether it's with you and particularly with someone else.
Dennis Collins:Because we generally don't understand the psychology of how people change their minds.
Dennis Collins:I. We tend to use devices that have been proven not to work
Dennis Collins:and simply act to piss them off as opposed to get the change.
Dennis Collins:So have you got any advice for our small business owners who might be in that?
Dennis Collins:They say, yeah, I need a mind shift change.
Dennis Collins:Phil is right on target with these four, particularly with the number two I think about believing in your people.
Dennis Collins:How do you make these mind shift changes that maybe you've held for decades?
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:Let's go back to the hero assumption.
Phil Wilson:You know, you gotta make the hero assumption about yourself
Phil Wilson:before you start making it for the folks that are around you, right?
Phil Wilson:You gotta believe there is a way down off of Mount stupid.
Phil Wilson:You have to believe that, like, even though you've had trouble with connecting with people in
Phil Wilson:the past and have maybe led with an, you know, too much of an iron fist that you can change, um.
Phil Wilson:Those are the, the real important work that you have to do really before you start working on anyone else.
Phil Wilson:My own personal version of that was, I tell the story in the, in the, in the book, I think the excerpt has
Phil Wilson:this story, but you know, I approached someone on my team, uh, to offer a
Phil Wilson:promotion and to basically be like my partner in running the business.
Phil Wilson:And she was like, I told your dad we're a family owned business.
Phil Wilson:She's like, I told your dad I'd never work for you.
Phil Wilson:That, that I, he was not able to retire until I was ready to retire.
Phil Wilson:'cause I'm never gonna work for you.
Phil Wilson:Wow.
Phil Wilson:And I didn't look, we're like a small company and I've like, we've
Phil Wilson:known each other for a long time and I didn't know she felt that way.
Phil Wilson:Well that was a wake up call.
Phil Wilson:And so I had to do some reflection on my own about like.
Phil Wilson:Wow, how, and this is my mount stupid moment, right?
Phil Wilson:It's like, how could I have been?
Phil Wilson:So, um, you know, living in the fog about that relationship and about relationships with these people that
Phil Wilson:I'm around all the time that are my team, that, look, we have worked together and worked well together for
Phil Wilson:a long time, but like, I, I wasn't seeing the world correctly and, um.
Phil Wilson:And so that, like, that was uncomfortable.
Phil Wilson:That was tough.
Phil Wilson:That was, uh, that was definitely a point where I had to like,
Phil Wilson:reflect on myself, but I also believed I could do it.
Phil Wilson:And I believed that I could, um, make the changes that, that were necessary
Phil Wilson:to, you know, flip that script around and, uh, and that's what happened.
Phil Wilson:And so, you know, I would just tell anybody.
Phil Wilson:It.
Phil Wilson:Like, that's pretty bad.
Phil Wilson:So I don't know what your shop is like, and you know, but it's probably not much worse than that.
Phil Wilson:Um, and if I can do it, uh, you can do it.
Phil Wilson:That, that would be my, my advice to somebody.
Dennis Collins:Yeah.
Dennis Collins:I can't...,
Leah Bumphrey:and the desire has to come in there too, right?
Leah Bumphrey:Like,
Phil Wilson:yeah, sometimes you
Leah Bumphrey:have owners and they don't really, they're not really engaged.
Leah Bumphrey:You, you need to want it.
Leah Bumphrey:And these are the reasons why, and these are the benefits.
Phil Wilson:Yeah, I mean, I wasn't really trusting of my team.
Phil Wilson:I kind of thought I had to do everything.
Phil Wilson:Uh, I, I was, I would send people down rabbit holes that were like, stuff that was just a shiny object
Phil Wilson:that I happened to run across and, you know, and then when they find, yeah, when they, when they like diverted
Phil Wilson:from what they were supposed to be doing to, to answer my question or
Phil Wilson:whatever, I had already moved on to like five shiny objects later.
Phil Wilson:So like I was creating a lot of havoc in mayhem.
Phil Wilson:My company.
Phil Wilson:And once I started like reflecting on these things, I started recognizing it.
Phil Wilson:Then like, it kind of gets pretty easy.
Phil Wilson:You just ask for help, ask your team for advice.
Phil Wilson:How can I stop doing?
Phil Wilson:How can I stop driving you crazy?
Phil Wilson:And they will tell you.
Phil Wilson:And, and then if you just start like doing that, um, and,
Phil Wilson:and they start understanding like, oh, you really mean it.
Phil Wilson:Like you, this is the new film, right?
Phil Wilson:This is the new film.
Phil Wilson:Then they notice like, oh.
Phil Wilson:He's actually trying to do it, you know, like that, that will build on itself.
Phil Wilson:So that's really.
Leah Bumphrey:Do you suggest doing that in a group setting or individually?
Leah Bumphrey:One-on-one.
Leah Bumphrey:What?
Leah Bumphrey:Do you have advice when?
Phil Wilson:I, I think it, I mean, I think it's situational first of all.
Phil Wilson:Like, I wouldn't like give a blanket, you know, advice.
Phil Wilson:But going back to kind of the fourth shift, it's, it, it really like the foundation is the relationships.
Phil Wilson:And so in my own case, the most important relationship was that relationship with the person who
Phil Wilson:I wanted to basically be running the day-to-day of the company.
Phil Wilson:So I had to like, get that fixed first.
Phil Wilson:Um, and I worked on that relationship first, and then we started kind of working on.
Phil Wilson:The rest of the team.
Phil Wilson:Um, we at the same time implemented a process called EOS, which probably many of your listeners are familiar with.
Phil Wilson:It's, you know, it's Gino Wickman's book on Traction.
Phil Wilson:Um, but we implemented that process, which also gave kind of a structure for us to have a lot of these conversations.
Phil Wilson:But, um, that is, that was our path and that's kind of the path that I, um, you know, that I talked about.
Phil Wilson:But, you know.
Phil Wilson:Every company is in a different spot and, and has different people.
Phil Wilson:And so, you know, your journey is not gonna look exactly like mine.
Phil Wilson:But I do think these, these fundamental principles sort of will lead you the right direction,
Dennis Collins:right?
Dennis Collins:Uh, and you know, we train a lot of salespeople and we, one of the first
Dennis Collins:things that I try to, to teach, uh, is the first sale is always to yourself.
Dennis Collins:Mm. You can't begin to, to try to sell someone else on your product or service or whatever it is until
Dennis Collins:you have sold yourself What you just said sounds an awful lot like that.
Dennis Collins:Mm-hmm.
Dennis Collins:The first sale is to yourself.
Dennis Collins:You've gotta get your.
Dennis Collins:You've gotta get yourself on board.
Dennis Collins:And we, we always like to challenge our, our, um, our listeners, our small business owners, don't we?
Dennis Collins:Leah, we like to issue a, a weekly challenge.
Dennis Collins:What's a, what would be a good weekly challenge based on what Phil has told?
Dennis Collins:Maybe Phil has one.
Dennis Collins:What would be a challenge that if, if you could talk to all these small business owners out there?
Dennis Collins:Hopefully they're all listening and tell them.
Dennis Collins:Regarding what you've learned over your career in leadership and what you're writing about in the new book Leadership
Dennis Collins:Playbook, what would be a good challenge they could do easily today, just based on the information we've talked about.
Phil Wilson:I'll, I'll go Leah, unless you, well, no,
Leah Bumphrey:I wanna hear, I, I have an idea, but I, I wanna hear the master.
Phil Wilson:I have two, and then Leah can give you your
Phil Wilson:third and you can pick out one of these three pieces of homework.
Phil Wilson:Okay.
Phil Wilson:The first one, I think is in the excerpt.
Phil Wilson:I, it, it might be at the end of chapter one.
Phil Wilson:I think it's at the end of the introduction, but the first
Phil Wilson:one, uh, and this is, this is easier, but it's powerful.
Phil Wilson:And this is, we call it Everyday Leader.
Phil Wilson:It's the way we kick off our workshops.
Phil Wilson:Um, but you know.
Phil Wilson:Think of somebody that's been an important leader in your life.
Phil Wilson:Someone who made the hero assumption about you.
Phil Wilson:Most of the times people will pick someone who was like the first person who believed in them.
Phil Wilson:Yes.
Phil Wilson:And, and maybe saw them in a place where they never even really saw themselves.
Phil Wilson:Okay.
Phil Wilson:Think of that person.
Phil Wilson:And once you have that person in mind, if they're still alive, hopefully they are, if they're still alive.
Phil Wilson:Commit to reach out to them and go, Hey, I was asked to think of someone that was a really important influential
Phil Wilson:leader, someone that I looked up to and admired and I thought of you, um, and have that conversation.
Phil Wilson:So that's number one.
Phil Wilson:That's powerful.
Phil Wilson:If that person's not alive, um, find somebody who knew them
Phil Wilson:and have that conversation, uh, with them just kind of.
Phil Wilson:Have a chance to kind of like remember and, and, and share kind of like what this person meant
Phil Wilson:to you and, and your own personal journey or personal leadership.
Phil Wilson:So that's, that's number one.
Phil Wilson:Um, if you really, so, so that's easier.
Phil Wilson:Number two is harder, uh, but probably higher impact.
Phil Wilson:But think a little bit about, um, like my own experience that I just told you about, who is the
Phil Wilson:person on your team that, like, if I say I want you to go have a conversation with them about, I think.
Phil Wilson:I think we could be better connected.
Phil Wilson:I think, uh, I think there's something, you know, in our relationship
Phil Wilson:that I think could improve and, and, and I want to do that.
Phil Wilson:Go have that conversation.
Phil Wilson:Whoever popped into your mind when I first said it, you already know who it is.
Phil Wilson:Yep.
Phil Wilson:Um, true.
Phil Wilson:Go talk to that person and just talk a little bit about, Hey, look.
Phil Wilson:I'd like to have a better connection.
Phil Wilson:I feel like we're not as connected as we should be.
Phil Wilson:Um, and, and then, you know, to make it easier for them, ask them for advice.
Phil Wilson:Gimme some advice about what can I do to help improve the connection.
Phil Wilson:You're somebody that I care about.
Phil Wilson:You're somebody that's important to me.
Phil Wilson:You're someone who's important in this company.
Phil Wilson:I. Want our connection to be better.
Phil Wilson:Um, have that conversation.
Phil Wilson:So that's my, that would, that, that's like the, uh, you know, the, the, that, that's like, uh,
Phil Wilson:you know, like the, the backup quarterback can do the first play.
Phil Wilson:You know, starting quarterbacks will do that, that second play.
Phil Wilson:So, Leah, how about you?
Leah Bumphrey:I love it.
Phil Wilson:That's gold.
Phil Wilson:That's gold, Phil.
Phil Wilson:Thanks.
Leah Bumphrey:You know, I, I loved how you said about, you know, asking for feedback from your team.
Leah Bumphrey:I think it's really important to set yourself up to be in a place where you can accept that feedback.
Leah Bumphrey:Hmm.
Leah Bumphrey:And asking the person who's closest to you in your life, ah, how
Leah Bumphrey:am I, your spouse, your sister, your dad, someone who knows you.
Leah Bumphrey:And just like, be open.
Leah Bumphrey:Tell me.
Leah Bumphrey:How I am in these situations because
Dennis Collins:that's scary.
Dennis Collins:Oh, that's scary.
Leah Bumphrey:It's very scary because it's too easy to dismiss someone who doesn't know you.
Leah Bumphrey:Someone who is Oh, they just don't like that.
Leah Bumphrey:I have them do this job and you have to be vulnerable and you most vulnerable with the people who love you and that,
Leah Bumphrey:that that's gonna be the hardest, but it can have the most impact.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Leah Bumphrey:I, I have one more than it's just people.
Leah Bumphrey:And you, you alluded to it when you were talking about the, the placebo effect, but people, it, it breaks
Leah Bumphrey:my heart, but when you tell them to do some self-talk and mm-hmm.
Leah Bumphrey:Just say, you know, I, I love you or I'm smart.
Leah Bumphrey:Their, their own internal reactions or worse, their external reactions tell you where they are.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Leah Bumphrey:They're dismissive.
Leah Bumphrey:They don't pick something.
Leah Bumphrey:Do it for 30 days every morning, tell yourself, look in the mirror and say something.
Leah Bumphrey:It will change because you can't help it.
Leah Bumphrey:Even if you discount it, you will believe it.
Leah Bumphrey:'cause our mind doesn't care what you tell it.
Leah Bumphrey:It believes you.
Phil Wilson:Yeah.
Phil Wilson:Okay, your first exercise, I have a crutch for that exercise to, to like lower the temperature level slightly,
Phil Wilson:but you can have that same conversation, which is that, that we talked about it earlier, but that card exercise,
Phil Wilson:basically you and you could come up with your own list of behaviors.
Phil Wilson:We have a list of behaviors as well, but like you can write down behaviors.
Phil Wilson:That you, you know, are, are like examples of good leadership behaviors.
Phil Wilson:I guarantee if you went in and like chat GPT and said list, you know, 25, you know, good leadership behaviors and
Phil Wilson:you basically, and then you can also tell it, list the opposite of those.
Phil Wilson:Um, and you can have them choose, okay, what are two, what are two things that you think I do well?
Phil Wilson:And then what are two things that you think I could do better?
Phil Wilson:You know, where you kind of.
Phil Wilson:You don't put them in the position.
Phil Wilson:Sometimes it's uncomfortable, like you put someone in the
Phil Wilson:position, so tell, you know, so tell me how like screwed up I am.
Phil Wilson:You know?
Phil Wilson:No.
Phil Wilson:Like people are gonna like, not really want to answer that question,
Phil Wilson:but if you've given them answers that you've already seen, right?
Phil Wilson:And you're like, mm-hmm.
Phil Wilson:Out of these, uh, you know, which do you think are things I do
Phil Wilson:well and which are some things that you think I could do better?
Phil Wilson:You're, you're gonna get, um, pro, well, you'll at least start the conversation at a different place.
Phil Wilson:Now, they might also then add, by the way, here's like five other ways you're screwed up.
Phil Wilson:That's fine.
Phil Wilson:Um, but at least you, at least you kind of made it easy for them to get that conversation started.
Phil Wilson:So that's kind of a good crutch for, for doing that.
Phil Wilson:But it's yes, asking people that are close to you.
Phil Wilson:Even outside of work that, and, and people like that, you can't fire and people that you can't, right?
Phil Wilson:Like, they're like, like, yes, my kid is gonna give me different
Phil Wilson:feedback and my spouse is gonna give me different feedback.
Phil Wilson:But yeah, that's a, that's a great place to start.
Leah Bumphrey:Oh, Dennis, our listeners, our small business
Leah Bumphrey:owners are getting more than their money's worth today
Dennis Collins:Chomping at the bid.
Dennis Collins:Leah, this has been like a masterclass Yes.
Dennis Collins:In how to ramp up.
Dennis Collins:Leadership, no matter how good it may be.
Dennis Collins:You, if you didn't pick out something from Phil today that could take your leadership from here to here.
Dennis Collins:You weren't listing.
Dennis Collins:So I advise you to go back and replay the episode.
Dennis Collins:It'll come to you, right?
Dennis Collins:It's there.
Leah Bumphrey:I can't wait to hear the results of some of these challenges 'cause I know we're
Leah Bumphrey:gonna get some response and they did this and this happened and
Phil Wilson:Oh, I would love to hear that too.
Phil Wilson:That's like,
Phil Wilson:we'll let you know.
Dennis Collins:Phil.
Dennis Collins:I, we could go on.
Dennis Collins:And this has been just totally enjoyable because this is our topic, our favorite topic, our listener's
Dennis Collins:favorite topic, and you just gave us so much inside information about stuff that, you know, stuff that you've done.
Dennis Collins:I can't wait to get the full book.
Dennis Collins:I just can't wait.
Dennis Collins:April 1st, I've got it marked down, man.
Dennis Collins:I got it marked down.
Dennis Collins:Uh, I wanna remind everybody that our guest today was Phil Wilson.
Dennis Collins:Uh, Phil.
Dennis Collins:As you probably have figured if you've been listening, is an author and a speaker.
Dennis Collins:His new book is called The Leader Shift Playbook.
Dennis Collins:That book will be released on April 1st if you want an existing book.
Dennis Collins:An excellent book on leadership.
Dennis Collins:The Approachability Playbook is already out there, already in print.
Dennis Collins:I got my copy sitting right back here.
Dennis Collins:I refer to it often because it's full of chunks of wisdom, similar to the leader Schiff, that's S-H-I-F-T.
Dennis Collins:Playbook.
Dennis Collins:What a great time.
Dennis Collins:Uh, I wish you nothing but the best with the book.
Dennis Collins:I don't see any reason this thing isn't gonna take off.
Dennis Collins:And you, you have spent a large portion of your life helping people to get extraordinary workplaces
Dennis Collins:and, uh, this is certainly going to help make that even more possible.
Dennis Collins:So thank you again for your time.
Dennis Collins:We appreciate you, we appreciate, uh, sharing with our audience.
Dennis Collins:Leah, any words of wisdom as we close out today?
Leah Bumphrey:I have another reason to wait to be excited about April coming.
CROSSTALK:Another reason.
CROSSTALK:Absolutely.
Dennis Collins:Other than tax days.
Dennis Collins:Well, you guys don't pay taxes in Canada, so
Leah Bumphrey:not Not this year.
Dennis Collins:Well, when you become our 51st state, we'll put some taxes.
Phil Wilson:Oh boy.
Dennis Collins:Oh, there, we could do a whole podcast on that.
Dennis Collins:Couldn't.
Dennis Collins:Okay.
Dennis Collins:I think we better,
CROSSTALK:and Dennis, we get too much
Dennis Collins:trouble.
Dennis Collins:We better quit and say this.
Dennis Collins:That's all for this episode of Connect & Convert.
Dennis Collins:We'll see you next time.
Dennis Collins:Join us.